I have not been given an explanation, have you gotten one yet?
One week after The Bomb she cited:
- her asking to leave my family reunion and by the time I finished my goodbyes, it was 45 minutes later (this was 7 years pre-bomb)
- my trying to get her to skinny-dip during a very secluded vacation moment (this was 5 years pre-bomb)
- a discussion (not argument) that we had re: sex (this was 15 years pre-bomb)
- I was "too helpful."
- my getting aroused when we would go to sleep spooning. Her IC told her this was "sexual abuse."
I kid you not.
Total, alien, scraping-the-bottom-of-the-barrel for ANY reason. She had just read Eat, Pray, Love: "I don't want to be married anymore."
I will never know the truth.
I no longer care.
I really do think what you put about it is a shell they aren't showing you all of who they are, or how you worded it. You have really delved into this, thinking about it. Thanks for posting it all, it helps.
I wasn't clear, here. The long quoted passage was from a posting by a wise DB poster by the screen name of Snodderly.