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Automatic PM Greeting to New Members #237382
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All,

As you might remember (long time ago for some), the UBB software automatically sends a PM to new members when their account is verified and approved.

This is a fairly generic greeting. RHW and I were talking a few days ago about this being the perfect place to say to a new member what we'd like them to know.

I can change the text quite easily. The bigger question is: What should the greeting say?

I thought I'd put this out here to see what the membership thinks and get some of our creative minds on it.

What do you say? Want to help bite off this one?

~AR


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Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: AntigoneRisen] #237429
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I'm one of those who signed up long enough ago that I have no clue what that initial PM said. Can you give us the text so we know what they're getting now?

I'd think we'd want to:

-Welcome a new member warmly, with assurances that the folks here have dealt with nearly every marital issue and will support them through theirs;

-Point out that we have a few simple rules that are covered in our TOS, but the most important boils down to: "Be respectful in your posting. These are real people here; many are in pain."

-Link to the Welcome Wagon thread.

That's for openers.

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They receive this:

Originally Posted By: MA Admin
Welcome to our forums! Please take a moment to review and update your profile and preferences to take full advantage of our features. You can do this by clicking on "Edit Profile" and "Edit Preferences" in the My Stuff dropdown.

Please do not reply to this message as this is just an automated welcome message to thank you for joining our community.


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Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: AntigoneRisen] #237436
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Thanks, AR. I don't remember getting that, nor whether it drove me to my profile, but I'd be willing to put into purple prose anything we decide to add to it. grin

Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: right here waiting] #237442
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something like the oft repeated greeting Ace and i give on the welcome thread. Links to the welcome wagon at a minimum, maybe a few cautions about TMI info since that happens often


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Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: Lil] #237529
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I say that we re-write the whole thing. Seriously, do we want our first message to them to be about their display preferences? I'm thinking not.


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Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: AntigoneRisen] #237543
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Welcome to our forums! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenges your marriage.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Youll find, Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MAs Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

We have some basic rules here-- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to Be respectful when posting.

Browse the helpful articles and threadsmake yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, just send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates.

Last edited by right here waiting; 06/04/12 03:54 AM. Reason: Have at it, folks!
Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: right here waiting] #237545
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One quick suggestion:

Originally Posted By: right here waiting
Welcome to our forums the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenges your marriage.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Youll find, Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MAs Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

We have some basic rules here-- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to Be respectful when posting.

Browse the helpful articles and threadsmake yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, just send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates.


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Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: AntigoneRisen] #237549
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Yep. Better.

I've got a couple more tweaks:

Welcome to the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenge your marriage is experiencing.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Youll find Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MAs Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

We have some basic rules here -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to Be respectful when posting.

Browse the helpful articles and threadsmake yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates.

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You guys are good! smile


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"We would love to get to know you better, so feel free to share with us a little about yourself"

and maybe something about the fact that we utilise a broad range of resources for marital improvement/help. You guys are better writers than me smile


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Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: right here waiting] #238048
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Thanks, lil. smile

Originally Posted By: right here waiting
Welcome to the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenge your marriage is experiencing.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Youll find Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MAs Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

We have some basic rules here -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to Be respectful when posting.

Browse the helpful articles and threadsmake yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates. We look forward to getting to know you.

Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: right here waiting] #238120
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Originally Posted By: right here waiting
Yep. Better.

I've got a couple more tweaks:

Welcome to the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenge your marriage is experiencing.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Youll find Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MAs Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

We have some basic rules here -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to Be respectful when posting.

Browse the helpful articles and threadsmake yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates.


Instead of "We have some basic rules here" what about 'There are some bacis rules on our site'

Instead of "Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates" what about 'Please give us a try, we would love to get to know you and help'

If you don't change it, I like what you put.

And what about hug at the end
tink

Last edited by tinkerbell; 06/06/12 04:24 PM.
Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: right here waiting] #238357
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Originally Posted By: right here waiting
Welcome to the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenge your marriage is experiencing.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Youll find Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MAs Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

We have some basic rules here -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to Be respectful when posting.

Browse the helpful articles and threadsmake yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates. We look forward to getting to know you.


Agree with Fiddler. You guys are good. I kept looking for this thread on the Advocates forum, wondering where it went. Silly me.

Not sure if this addition is valid but I, for one, wandered onto MB's web site accidentally and had no clue what a discussion forum was. I was totally naive about computer "tricks" and wondered why some people posted a blue "here" that showed a line under it whenever I rolled my cursor over it. Obviously I knew nothing about links and how they worked. As I said, I was naive and others may be similar.....or not.

IDEA: Add the following line (may have to be reworded so it doesn't offend the sophisticated poster).


Quote:
Welcome to the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenge your marriage is experiencing.

Like on other discussion forums, you may click on the blue (underlined) links to access resources quickly. Please take a look around the Welcome area. Youll find Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MAs Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

We have some basic rules here -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to Be respectful when posting.

Browse the helpful articles and threadsmake yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly.

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates. We look forward to getting to know you.


Ooops. Sorry the blue links disappeared when I c/p instead of quick-quoting. See how naive I still am? eek

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Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: right here waiting] #238409
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Originally Posted By: right here waiting
Welcome to the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenge your marriage is experiencing.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Click on these links and youll find: Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MAs Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

There are some basic rules on our site -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to Be respectful when posting.

Browse the helpful articles and threadsmake yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates. We look forward to getting to know you.

Last edited by right here waiting; 06/07/12 05:03 PM. Reason: incorporating others' ideas
Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: right here waiting] #238789
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Looking good.

Since the suggestion is made to "send a Private Message to a Mod", it might be good to mention briefly "how" PMs work. The following bolded insertion needs wordsmithing and may be in the wrong place but would have been helpful for newbies like me (who originally thought the blinking red thingy was a design decoration.)

Originally Posted By: right here waiting
Welcome to the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenge your marriage is experiencing.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Click on these links and you'll find: Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MA's Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

There are some basic rules on our site -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to "Be respectful when posting."

Browse the helpful articles and threads...make yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, send a Private Message to one of the moderators by clicking on their name below and then clicking on the blue link marked "Send a Private Message." (You might have an incoming PM indicated by a blinking white envelope between the "My Stuff" and "User List" tabs above. If so, click on the blinking envelope link to access your own PM inbox.) Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates. We look forward to getting to know you.


TECH NOTE TO AR: When I quick-quoted RHW's post, some elipses, apostrophes and quotation marks were replaced by little boxes on my screen. Did it happen on anyone else's screen? ETA: Just noticed that after I hit submit, the little boxes have been replaced by the number sign and random (to me) numbers. eek

Originally Posted By: right here waiting
Welcome to the Marriage Advocates Discussion Forum! Whatever your marital concern, there are folks here who have worked through it and will offer help and support. We hope their experience will help you work through whatever challenge your marriage is experiencing.

Take a look around the Welcome area. Click on these links and you’ll find: Information for Navigating the Site, A Guide to MA’s Staff, and A Handy List of Acronyms.

There are some basic rules on our site -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to “Be respectful when posting.”

Browse the helpful articles and threads…make yourself at home. Feel free to start your own thread in whichever forum your situation fits. If you need help, send a Private Message to one of the moderators. Or just start a thread and yell for help! Someone will be along shortly. nod

Again, welcome to Marriage Advocates. We look forward to getting to know you.

Last edited by Ace; 06/09/12 01:28 PM. Reason: Add to tech note to AR about issues with apostrophes, elipses and quotation marks.
Re: Automatic PM Greeting to New Members [Re: Ace] #238790
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I was just wondering about this sentence:

There are some basic rules on our site -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to "Be respectful when posting."

Shouldn't boil be boils?

I understand that the rules (plural) boil down but I think it changes when you use "the most important" (singular).

Hope this makes sense. If not, just ignore me.


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Originally Posted By: wiser_now

Hope this makes sense. If not, just ignore me.


waves Hi WN...naahhh...we'll never ignore you.

Has anyone told you today how much we appreciate your contributions to MA?
Consider it said. claps

Ace

ETA: I think you may be right on the boil/boils issue.


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Originally Posted By: wiser_now
I was just wondering about this sentence:

There are some basic rules on our site -- Terms of Service -- but the most important boil down to "Be respectful when posting."

Shouldn't boil be boils?

I understand that the rules (plural) boil down but I think it changes when you use "the most important" (singular).

Hope this makes sense. If not, just ignore me.


Nope. While "the most important" can be either singular or plural, in this case it refers to rules, which is plural. "the most important (of them) boil down to..." If we were referring to only one rule, it'd be different.

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I like Ace's answer better.

ROFL


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Originally Posted By: wiser_now
I like Ace's answer better.

ROFL


Shall we just ignore RHW since she's such a smartie? laugh1

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Yes, let's!!!!

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PS: Ace, thank you for the kind words, too. hug


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Ah, the curse of having been an English teacher--it drives friends away (to say nothing of high school kids). cliff

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So... have we got a nice new greeting yet?


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I'm reviewing this, because I'd like to get it implemented.

Ace - there are some characters which aren't supported. UBB translates what you paste in for HTML compliance. Some of the characters then come out literally &#256. See this reference on what these are supposed to do: http://www.ascii.cl/htmlcodes.htm


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