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The Iceberg Equation #33358
12/08/10 05:43 PM
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Al Turtle has an interesting chart Here!

At one point in my life, I was taking a course in cultural psychology - I had lived in Japan for a couple of years prior to that time and thus had some insight into what the professor was trying to teach us.

I was much like the Iceberg that Al posts.

See, while I had been in Japan, I had noticed that the Japanese had several layers to their personalities.

First was their public face, with several variables, depending on who they were dealing with. Next, was their family face, followed by their carefully hidden private face.

And of course, their subconscious face, which Al also mentions.

I listened to what the Professor had to say, thought about compartmentalization, something that males are good at, and formed an early version of the iceberg theory that Al presents in far more detail and better developed that mine ever was.

Click on the link, observe and read, I think you will see how the Iceberg theory explains a lot about how people react in a relationship.

Larry



It's often the truth we hide from ourselves that causes the most damage in life.

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Re: The Iceberg Equation [Re: Larry] #33367
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The Castle Aaaggghh...
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Very very good and insightful. I needed to see that visual because my iceberg has been cracking a little lately smile

Re: The Iceberg Equation [Re: herfuturesbright] #33463
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what sort of iceberg has very little beneath the surface?

Re: The Iceberg Equation [Re: Amadahy] #33605
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Someone who is a mile wide and an inch deep? Heck, I dunno SR. If you mean you, I don't believe it. By no means are you a mile wide and an inch deep.


It's often the truth we hide from ourselves that causes the most damage in life.

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Re: The Iceberg Equation [Re: Larry] #34314
12/11/10 06:43 PM
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Never seen it. I've seen people who appear this way, but beneath the surface I'm used to the idea that there's a whole lot of stuff going on or just lurking.

Let's see, the possibilities are:

1) Someone who keeps lots and lots of privacy (learned to).

2) Someone who has lots and lots of unconscious material (never learned to look into it).

3) Someone who has some sort of actual brain damage (I met a serial killer at a state institution in Montana who had undergone a pre-frontal lobotomy. Very nice guy - now.)

4) Someone who smokes Pot or equivalent (THC) regularly. Pot smokers are an interesting sub-group, when it comes to the Iceberg.

I'm sure there are more.


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Re: The Iceberg Equation [Re: AlTurtle] #35074
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Number 4 would be of interest to me since I deal with a lot of teenagers (mostly male), who, because I am even better at computers than they are, allow me to provide information they would reject if it came from their parent.

Two of them are dedicated to taking whatever it is I say and running to the nearest computer and doing a google trying to prove me wrong about something. Amazing amount of new information is getting stored in the brains of those two. wink

Obviously I am very careful what I say. And obviously I have already looked it up on google before I open my mouth. Fun!

Larry


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Re: The Iceberg Equation [Re: Larry] #36933
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#4 would also be of interest to me because I have a friend who self medicates with pot. No combo of psychotropics will keep her stable, but a toke every evening does. Go figure. not that I'd recommend it to anyone, and of all the potheads I know, she's the ONLY one who appears to be better on than off.


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Originally Posted By: Amadahy
what sort of iceberg has very little beneath the surface?

That would be an ice floe. They don't last very long when the temperature rises.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.

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