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Re: ***SPORTS SPOUSES: Does Your Spouse's Sports Passion Affect Your Marriage? *** [Re: Chrysalis] #363353
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Originally Posted By: Chrysalis
We are on a quest to visit all the ball parks in our lifetimes, and just got back from St Louis and KC over the weekend. So the presence of sports has been good for our whole family.


Have you considered going to the National Baseball Hall of Fame in Cooperstown, NY? H and I both want to go one of these days.

I liked baseball when I was in junior high because of the cute guys. We often volunteered to man the hand-operated score-board during games because it was behind the opposing team's bench; my girlfriends and I loved flirting with the players.

Fast-forward 8 years and I met and married a guy with a huge passion for baseball. Go figure.

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Re: ***SPORTS SPOUSES: Does Your Spouse's Sports Passion Affect Your Marriage? *** [Re: AntigoneRisen] #363354
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Originally Posted By: AntigoneRisen
Navigating sports was - and is - a part of my marriage. I can't say that it has affected the quality of it, but perhaps it would have if we hadn't handled it the way we did.


So what could you have done differently regarding sports that might have impacted your marriage in a positive way and improved its quality?

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Re: ***SPORTS SPOUSES: Does Your Spouse's Sports Passion Affect Your Marriage? *** [Re: Ace] #363387
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Well, I enjoy sports and so does he. We didn't have overlapping or competing teams (how could we?). We were both open to learning about the other's sport and to be involved.


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Re: ***SPORTS SPOUSES: Does Your Spouse's Sports Passion Affect Your Marriage? *** [Re: AntigoneRisen] #363395
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I was going to comment about that, AR. I think one of the key things about this for me was my willingness to learn and engage.

I walked into a house full of boys. They had been on their own for a while, and had bonded as boys/men will. So I had to use my curiosity and willingness to learn, to take opportunities to engage with them on their turf and integrate with them. Yeah, I could have just wandered off during their Chicago Bulls fever and read a book. But look at how much FUN they were having! And it was important to them. So, even though I had no IDEA what it was about, I sat down, and allowed myself to be the "dumb" one for a change. They taught me, and laughed at me a little, and we all had a great time.

When the boys got older and played sports, I became a rabid fan of their teams. With cowbells, and airhorns, foam fingers, etc. It was good stuff.

DH and I will watch a game on tv occasionally now, neither one of us cares much. It's something to do on a boring afternoon when the weather sucks.


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Re: ***SPORTS SPOUSES: Does Your Spouse's Sports Passion Affect Your Marriage? *** [Re: Ace] #445287
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Originally Posted by Ace
AntigoneRisen recently (actually back in 2014) posted a marriage news story about how a swap in baseball team loyalties was forced by marriage.

I said I'd start a CZ thread and then found this thread dancing with crickets for nearly 4 years* in the bowels of the Construction Zone. It's not exactly the same issue but seems related enough to continue the subject here.


*Well, now it's been 6 more years but someone (or something) was reading this thread today so it's time to bump it.


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