I haven't exactly given up on the relationship exactly, but rather trying to see if and where I cause it. But it isn't really my job to fix my husband either. Trying to focus on what gives my life meaning and refreshes my soul these day. If I enjoy doing it, I keep doing it and if I don't, then I say no. That said, if somehow I am encouraging his woe is me stand from my behavior, then what is it that I need to stop so that he sees himself as a strong guy.
Or is it a matter of accepting human limitations? Not sure what dynamic it is. I kind of wish we had an outside guy that could help us with that, but I have no idea who that would be here. So until that time, I will just try to be grateful for all the good and improve what I can.