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AM I the first? #405642
02/25/16 10:17 PM
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Won't be around here much. .But I'm pleased to announce I did get remarried last August. Both of us are from past failed marriages due to cheating. Very happy and working the blended family issues. The EX ghost issue more on her mind than mine - in fact not on mine. Only on hers because of business related to kids with EX. Annulment still in process but should be approved soon according to a meeting I had late last year.

So Hi everyone!

20


Accept what is,
Let go of what was
and have faith in what will be.
Re: AM I the first? [Re: 20yrsdone] #405643
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very happy for you, 20yrs.

Sending you wishes for all good things.


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
Re: AM I the first? [Re: Miranda] #405646
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Congrats!

Re: AM I the first? [Re: SmilingWife] #405649
02/26/16 01:04 AM
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Thank you both Smiling Wife and Miranda. I'm sure for some it is difficult to offer congratulations if your own situation has not improved. I offer my heartfelt sympathies for many in the throes of infidelity. I know and remember how hard it was. It's damn impossible to believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel that is not an oncoming train. Let me offer you some hope! It can get better. You hold the key in your hand.


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Let go of what was
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Re: AM I the first? [Re: 20yrsdone] #405654
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Congratulations 20! It is so good to be reminded that there is light at the end of the tunnel! I'm so happy it worked out so well for you!

I think maybe you are the first one who started here and is remarried smile I think SmilingWife was remarried by the time she got here, and CajunRose remarried as one of us, but she started elsewhere.


"I have everything I need." and "I am exactly where I am supposed to be." ~Louise Hays
Re: AM I the first? [Re: 20yrsdone] #405659
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Originally Posted By: 20yrsdone
Let me offer you some hope! It can get better. You hold the key in your hand.


Wonderful true words. While not involved in infidelity, I've found this to be very true...

Thanks for sharing, 20yrs.


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
Re: AM I the first? [Re: Miranda] #405784
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I believe CR may have been the first, but believer mentioned to me there were many who remarried or partnered up....

Wonderful to hear your good news!!! (I'm still here, heeding your advice to try NOT to post/focus on xh... I could do better!!!) waves

20- Good for you and congratulations. I really hope your "Brady Bunch" works together well !!!


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Me: 50
XH: 13 - well, does emotional age count?
DD1: 24
DD2: 20
30 year partnership...

M: Dec, 1987
Bomb: May 12, 2014
D: Oct, 2015
Ratz.
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Re: AM I the first? [Re: whatsupdoc?] #408046
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SO far things are great. Lisa, my new wife is now dealing with her 70 year old mom cheating and asking for a divorce. Hard to stay out of that and not offer advice! Only thing I can say is "it's all about your mom - not you or step dad or anyone else - just her!" I try to be as supportive as possible. It gives me another perspective on how betrayed my kids must have felt by ex. Youngest still worries me but at 21 there isn't much I can do but be there and help if she asks. Have a great day folks! I'll pass through once in while.


Accept what is,
Let go of what was
and have faith in what will be.
Re: AM I the first? [Re: 20yrsdone] #408431
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What TV character used to say; "Aw, Martha, act your age!" ?


Me: 50
XH: 13 - well, does emotional age count?
DD1: 24
DD2: 20
30 year partnership...

M: Dec, 1987
Bomb: May 12, 2014
D: Oct, 2015
Ratz.
I am learning how to surf!

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