Oh my! This is exactly what I needed to hear/read right now. Perfect timing! Thanks!!!
After 4 months of pain and anguish hoping that my H would leave the OW (lying to me all along that there was nothing going on; how stupid was I
) - I have finally told H last night that he needed to leave. For some reason, after all this time of being totally paralysed and unable to detach and let go - suddenly last night I got the strength and a glimpse of common sense to say "enough is enough". Last night I was still emotional and hurt, but this morning brought a sense of clarity, purpose, and calm. I suddenly knew what needed to be done and that it was about time I started thinking of me and taking care of me. H started looking for apartments today so hopefully he'll move out in a week or so. I must say, I feel better already.