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Two Wolves #290
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This is an old Cherokee parable. This version is taken from http://www.sapphyr.net/natam/two-wolves.htm

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An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life...

"A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

"One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.

"The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

"This same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"

The old chief simply replied, "The one you feed."

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Re: Two Wolves [Re: AntigoneRisen] #331
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I've been on Facebook too long, I was looking for the "Like" button! Excellent post!


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Nice!

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Thank you, Antigone...I love that story.

And {{{{Catperson}}}}

I can't tell you in words how great it is to see you again.

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Just wanted to bump this due to recent realization...

I overfed my resentment and inferiority wolf for most of my life...and I stopped...

only resentment wolf is sooooo sneaky, he can look like his twin.

So I stopped again.

Recently I realized from my reaction to old stuff made new again...I have been feeding the wolf I really want to grow. What a blessing to know one from the other really clearly.

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Good point. Especially when we are angry or fearful, we can convince ourselves we are feeding a wolf we are not.


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You know, this story can not only apply to feelings within ourselves, but relationships as well.

Years ago, shortly after d-day in my situation I was looking for an MC to try to save my marriage. I explained our situation (wife had been in an EA) to an assistant working in the MC's office. I mentioned that my wife had commented that she was "falling out of love with (Owl), and in love with (OM)".

The assistant made an observation that has stuck with me to this day.

She said "I've noticed that the only difference between "love" and "in love" in this kind of situation is which relationship you're putting the effort into.".

Kind of...which wolf is being fed, if you think about it.

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I've heard this story used to teach a Christian principle.

I agree it can be used for almost any circumstance. Thank you for sharing it AR.


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"like". Funny Gladstone. Good story.

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Trying to feed the kindness wolf, but hoping he's not the resentment wolf sneaking up in disguise :-)

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Just saw your post, Owl. I love it. Thank you for sharing...widened my mind a bit.

You know I love that.

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Originally Posted by LovingAnyway
Just saw your post, Owl. I love it. Thank you for sharing...widened my mind a bit.

You know I love that.

LA


Thanks for bumping this, Lil. It gives me a new perspective for stuff I'm dealing with today.

I miss LA and AR and others on this thread and around the forums.....

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