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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Miranda] #444460
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Hey lil,

Funny how time chugs on by. I'm hoping that you still haven't made it here yet? I'd be sad to have missed you.

Sounds like an exciting trip you have planned and life sounds just about spot on.

See you soon


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Squeaky Tree] #444477
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Originally Posted by Squeaky Tree

See you soon


Hi All waves

Hey ST! How are ya?

I'm not around much but saw your "see you soon" message to Lil.

What am I missing? When/where might you see her?

How was your cruise to Norway, Chrys?

Hope all are well.

Forgot my password it's been so long since I've posted or even logged in.

Then I realized that my key-lock was on. blushing

Hope y'all had a great Christmas and have a Happy New Year!

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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #444482
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Cruise was pretty good. We did see the Northern lights. We had tons of sea days and 4 stops in small Norwegian towns. One morning I was in line for omelettes and met a woman from my hometown-- close to my neighborhood even-- as one of only 150 Americans on the 2000-passenger ship. And she is also a youth arts nonprofit director in town. Small world.

We had a good Christmas, are anticipating a wedding this year, and have "adopted" a family of surrogate grandkids in town. 7 kids, 5 of them adopted.

My body is getting old and I am feeling it. And I am anticipating a complicated hysterectomy sometime soon. There you go.


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #444492
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Hey Ace,

See you soon was more lateral than literal. I guess I should do a little update.

Chrys, you are very cool. I love the grandkids and excited for your wedding. Getting older clearly has the potential to bring much joy along with the failings of the body. Enforced hysterectomies seem to en vogue here. I know of one recently happened, one imminent and one likely - 2 for folks younger than me and one just a couple of years older.

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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Squeaky Tree] #444500
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Originally Posted by Squeaky Tree
Hey Ace,

See you soon was more lateral than literal. I guess I should do a little update.



Yes, I'd love to see an update.

Do you realize that MA is almost 10 years old? We should think about another cyber party. Anyone heard from the old gang? I see Mark and NED and Chrys and Lil have been around.

Who else that registered for MA in/around 2010 is out there lurking in cyberland?

Ace


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Ace] #444504
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Originally Posted by Ace
Originally Posted by Squeaky Tree
Hey Ace,

See you soon was more lateral than literal. I guess I should do a little update.



Yes, I'd love to see an update.

Do you realize that MA is almost 10 years old? We should think about another cyber party. Anyone heard from the old gang? I see Mark and NED and Chrys and Lil have been around.

Who else that registered for MA in/around 2010 is out there lurking in cyberland?

Ace


I have been here since 2011 I believe.

Re: Lil' Blog [Re: SmilingWife] #444507
12/28/19 11:22 PM
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I joined in Sept 2010. Before that I was on MB, been a mod then banned. MA has been a life-saver with a better support system.

If we can provide more financial support for MA, it would really help. smile


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445512
05/19/21 11:06 PM
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Well hello there,

I got a message from a someone, and thought Id a come snooping. And give an update.

So life has changed somewhat for me. I decided to part ways with corporate veterinary and am now an apprentice funeral director/ Embalmer. This is better hours, much better pay, more interesting..well the embalming is, but still requires me to spend more time around live humans than my mental health enjoys. Prolly theirs as well scratch

Flick and I are currently in a great place. Partly from my reduced hours meaning we have set aside Wednesday nights as date night, and since I was away last weekend and he is away this weekend (shush, dont tell MB) we had an all day date wednesday yesterday and it was lovely.

Children....Hopper is amazing and living her best life and I tell you, its better than any of ours. Beetle is 11.5 and definatly warming up his teenage mode. I hope he survives it grin Older daughter is pregnant with child number 4. She seems to be maturing with each child, at least I dont feel in any danger of needing to step in for anymore. There was some talk on hers and DKs side about taking Beetle back. This id not happen, and never will.

Ok, thats about it I think


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445589
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Liz and Ace:

What happened with Marriage Builders? It was my Saving Grace. I

Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445590
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I dont really remember anymore. think a bunch of us didnt feel that there was anything wrong with customising our plans a bit with stuff from other programmes, and the leadership team didnt agree.

It all got a bit silly and highschoolish toward the end and MA was born from some of that. A coupe of other marriage websites had a similar falling out.

I agree with you tho, MB gave me a strong starting point when my head was reeling and I couldnt think straight. Its just I needed more than it delievered in the end


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Mimi] #445592
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Originally Posted by Mimi
Lil and Ace:

What happened with Marriage Builders? It was my Saving Grace.


I have my theories but prefer not to go into them here.

I will, however, agree with you that MB provided the launching foundation for us to get our marriage back on track. Just the fact that they were going to host an MB Weekend in England (with Bob Pure, remember him?) gave us an opportunity for my W?H to show me he would DO anything to help us heal. He said he'd sign up and go to England if that's what it took.

They changed to Anaheim so we went to Disneyland and the MB Weekend in 2008.

Ace

P.S. I told H I'd go on one ride....I hate motion rides because I had had vertigo a few years prior. I ended up going on all rides except the really fast spinning one. I think it was related to space but can't remember.


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445741
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So, I havent been around for a bit, and I do apologise...DH and I bought a holiday home. I mean a "holiday" "home", as in it is neither a holiday to go there right now, nor a home for ...reasons.

Frankly my dear, its a bit of a sh!thole.

In other random musings, given the nature of my current career choice, should I change my avatar?


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445746
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I like your avatar. Do what you prefer and like the most.

What's wrong with the holiday home? Too much of a fixer-upper?

Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Ace] #445747
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Turns out we have entirely different visions for it. Ah well POJA and all that.

My biggest issue is that it is very dirty and has a far too active mouse population. I'd do the live and let.live thing, but they poop anywhere they darn well want.

Still since we cant really get away overseas and the caravan has become less convenient-we added another dog into the family- this is a good option.

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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445782
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So I've joined the ranks of the lightly medicated.

I had been having a rough time since about Feb 2020, mentally, and it all got a bit much a couple of weeks ago. When I realised I was rather inclined towards a preference to being one of the people I service, I thought I'd better go talk to someone. So I'm a bit fuzzy, which they assure me will wear off in another week or so.

That's all I guess.


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445783
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Originally Posted by Lil
So I've joined the ranks of the lightly medicated.

I had been having a rough time since about Feb 2020, mentally, and it all got a bit much a couple of weeks ago. When I realised I was rather inclined towards a preference to being one of the people I service, I thought I'd better go talk to someone. So I'm a bit fuzzy, which they assure me will wear off in another week or so.

That's all I guess.


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445785
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Its ok, just a bit disappointing that I couldnt push thru it


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445792
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You are wise to seek help. Hugs, 'Lil.

Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445794
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Very brave Lil! You do so much for so many! You deserve to look after your own health too.


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(((Lil)))


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Re: Lil' Blog [Re: Lil] #445798
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I appreciate the support guys, I am OK tho. I've had some counselling, I have the medication and I am doing some behaviour modification stuff.


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Hugs, 'Lil. It's hard re-learning how to put ourselves as a priority. Usually we are all last in the line...

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