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12/21/21 07:34 PM
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Hi. My best friend is going through a very rough patch in her marriage. No infidelity. I recommended the Harley books to them and they have both read and loved a couple. She feels they need outside help and wants to use Steve Harley. Does anyone have any info on him and how well people like him as a counselor?

Re: Steve Harley Counseling [Re: SmilingWife] #445905
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SW,

Can't Hurt.

If they like the books, then tailoring the idea's to their specific issues would probably help.

SFB


Finding an ethical way to deal with pain, fear, disappointment etc..is part of the experience of becoming a stronger person...one who is driven by compassion instead of compulsion...ie I have a legitimate reason to be stressed out right now...however, my response to it will determine how others percieve me, and myself. (quoting Star*Fish)
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I spoke with him once and I was impressed with how he tried to build my empathy for my husband.

I had just climbed a 14er and he compared that experience of viewing the world from a different perspective as my husband was called to do after my infidelity both insightful and persuasive.

I found the forum (looking at you Mel) so toxic that when I was meant to have a call with my husband in the car on a long drive I was too scared to do it. I had no way to get out of the car if things went south and Steve started attacking me as I had been led would be the case on the forum. My husband asked what had happened about the call and pretended I forgot or something.

It’s been 11 years and I’ve had time to think about it and what I have concluded is that if you are willing to put your imprimatur on hate and rage, as the Harleys did (or maybe still do — haven’t looked in years) with their forum, I don’t want you in my life.

Still looking at you Mel.


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