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Change Trains #213934
03/08/12 04:50 AM
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Does have a strong Christian component, but I like it because of the simple message

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Re: Change Trains [Re: Lil] #446017
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Well that is a shame. Let's see what I can remember.

There was a lady who commuted to work everyday. and one day she noticed a very attractive man sitting across from her in the train. He looked up as she was looking at him, and he smiled. As she was having some issues at home, she was very taken with that smile, perhaps more so than she would have normally.

The next day she got on the train and got a little happy pitter-patter when she noticed that the attractive man was sitting about where he had been the day before. She sat down across from him again. He looked up at her, and he smiled, and she smiled back. This continued on for several days to the point that she noticed that she was very much looking forward to seeing this man, and would actually spend quite a bit of time thinking about him, knowing nothing about him apart from that he had a nice smile.

About this time, things started to improve at home as they do, and she started to feel a little bit guilty about the thoughts and feelings that she had allowed to develop about this man. As her relationship with her husband got better, her angst about the man on the train got worse. Yet she could not work out how to stop this situation. It got to the point where she felt she had to say something to her husband, and ask for help.

So she sat him down and she explained all that she was thinking, and all that she was feeling. Her husband sat there with his eyes closed, and his chin resting on his hands, and just listened to all that she had to say 1st.

He then he said just two words that changed everything. "Change trains". And it was such a simple thing to do, just catch the train before or after the ones you would normally take and the man would not be there.

What I like about the story was there is no criticism or condemnation by the husband. There was openness and honesty from the wife. Together they were able to come up with a plan to stop something happening because they were both onboard and working together.

He told.it betterthan I wrote it, and I prolly missed some bits. If anyone can find a copy, that would be awesome


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