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Another day, another pile of crap #446048
06/21/23 03:36 AM
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Lil Offline OP

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First of all Kiaora!

I saw a meme the other day that said 'this too shall pass. Then itll be replaced with some other [BS] cos it never ends.

To recap, husband had an affair, dealt with that
Husband discovered looking at some pretty distasteful porn, dealth with that
Generally pretty good marriage apart from fairly normal ups and downs

So why am I here?
Because new [BS].
And I cant talk to people IRL
And I honestly feel stuck between a bunch of stuff.

I think I am about to become a transwidow.

About 12 months ago he said he wanted to feel pretty. I thought it mean why should women have all the soft fabric and lace. I agreed it was unfair. Since then its become cross dressing, but at home because things he is involved in are not ready for that.
Then it was comments about having good legs and wanting boobs.
So I said I didnt want a wife, so if he carried down the path of Autogynephilia I would be his friend, but not his wife

That was 3 weeks ago and hes still here, but angry. Is withholding affection.

I'm so over this. But also reluctant to separate as I still have a 13 year old at home, and I remember how much damage was done the last time kids got dragged into adult stuff

So I guess I am here to whinge and say it's not fair but change nothing because fear and anxiety.

How you doing?


AKA Lildoggie

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Re: Another day, another pile of crap [Re: Lil] #446050
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I am so, so sorry. That is a lot.

Re: Another day, another pile of crap [Re: Lil] #446051
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Ugh so sorry

Re: Another day, another pile of crap [Re: Lil] #446052
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Lil so sorry to hear that. I just saw this. Definitely not what you expected in life. How can we support you as you go through this?


"I have everything I need." and "I am exactly where I am supposed to be." ~Louise Hays
Re: Another day, another pile of crap [Re: Lil] #446054
08/12/23 10:35 AM
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Honestly I don't know

This isnt an affair or marriage issue. This is something systemically broken in him

And I need to try to deal with it

I remember when he had his affair way back when, and reading a thread where the WS had come out gay and the BS saying how the he ll do I deal with this ?

Its a whole new world


AKA Lildoggie

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Re: Another day, another pile of crap [Re: Lil] #446055
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You all have made it through so much. But what a difficult hurdle.


"I have everything I need." and "I am exactly where I am supposed to be." ~Louise Hays
Re: Another day, another pile of crap [Re: Lil] #446056
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Originally Posted by Lil
Honestly I don't know

This isnt an affair or marriage issue. This is something systemically broken in him

And I need to try to deal with it

I remember when he had his affair way back when, and reading a thread where the WS had come out gay and the BS saying how the he ll do I deal with this ?

Its a whole new world


Hi Lil…..I rarely ge ton here but I was thinking about you and wondering how things turned out for you all.


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